"The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom."
December 10, 2010
I know, a strange title for a post about a wedding. Maybe it should be something more traditional like, “lovebirds in love,” or “two hearts beating as one,” or some other meaningless phrase that sounds suspiciously like the lyrics of a song by Air Supply.
But this is the perfect title for a post about Catherine and Tommy, because they were both raised by single mothers, and after spending just a handful of hours with them, it’s obvious that their mothers’ hearts could take on Stephen Hawking’s brain any day. No matter what Bill O’Reilly would say about single parenthood destroying society, I personally don’t think he could buy enough vowels to get it. Single moms rock the love and they rock it hard. They have to, because if they don’t, nobody else will. And I’ve never known a mom–single or not–who was willing to let her kids go through life not feeling like the most loved person in the world.
But I digress.
Catherine has the best sense of humor; she’s smart and real and sharp as a tack when it comes to cracking of the wise. Tommy is so sweet; he honors the women in his life–his mother and his sister–and now Catherine, his wife, the way that all women wish to be honored. Their first dance, a time-honored tradition in weddings, was interrupted after only a couple of minutes so that they could stop and express their love of family and how nothing would be possible without their sisters and their mothers. And then there was the first family dance, something I’ve never seen in all the weddings I’ve shot. Tommy & Cat, their sisters and their moms, all hugging and dancing and celebrating the life and love they’ve just promised to share until death do they part.
Wow. Just…wow. It was really something to see, and I was really, for real, honored to be chosen to capture those moments.
So this is for Catherine & Tommy & and their families; and it’s for all the single moms (so many that I know) who keep on keeping on and who, without sound bites or televised points of view, stay in and raise good people. That’s their job, you know. It’s every mother’s and father’s job to raise a good person, and all I can say to Tommy & Cat’s moms is: well done.